There are two types of people in this world:
Pleasing methods oriented people and pleasing results oriented people.
Those who are pleasing methods seek exactly that, pleasing methods. They are concerned with the degree and severity of the method, negotiating what needs to be sacrificed in order to achieve a goal. They seek the path of least resistance, with familiar language such as:
- Can we do something easy today?
- I don’t like the taste of veggies.
- I am not a morning person.
- Are you going to take away my alcohol?
- I will give up everything except chocolate.
- Is there a magical pill I can take instead?
- How long will it take to get the results?
- When will this be over?
When it comes to taking action in achieving their goal things done, they almost sound like Grouchy Smurf. Pleasing methods people are motivated by the comfort factor. They do things they like to do. They take action when the method required for change, conveniently fits within their comfort zone. Focusing on the price it will take, rather than the prize at stake.
Then of course are the few and far in between, the pleasing results oriented camp.
These people begin with the end in mind. They are focused on the prize, not the price. Welcoming the pain of sacrifice like they are starving for change. They are locked and ready to make change, in spite what needs to be done. They come armed with a “do what it takes” attitude, adhering to guidelines and never deviating from them.
They speak the language of:
- Just tell me what needs to be done and I’ll start ASAP
- Can we do 5am instead of 6am? I have a meeting at 7am.
- Can you please tell me your five best foods to eat?
- Got it, meat and nuts for breakfast.
- What do we do once I get to my goal?
These individuals are destined to succeed in spite any obstacle that comes their way. They never negotiate what it takes to reach their goal. They do what needs to be done, when it ought to be done, whether they like it or not.
Pleasing methods people usually have an excuse, whereas pleasing results people produce a result. One says “I will do it tomorrow” whilst the other replies: “There are only so few tomorrows.”
You and I can either be one or the other – we just can’t be both.
In order to be truly successful, pleasing results oriented is who we need to become. We must embrace the pain of sacrifice and get comfortable with our discomfort.
Change is painful. Whether it takes us to the land of our true potential or to a place of unfulfilled destiny, change is painful. To be one with who we truly are, the pain of never achieving our goal must be greater than the pain of sacrifice.
Stepping out of our comfort zone is where true potential lies. Whether we choose pleasing methods or pleasing results, the onus is on us. It is nothing more than an attitude adjustment, which is what ultimately makes the difference.
Things either grow or die in life, nothing remains the same. Like a flight of stairs, we are either climbing up or sliding down. Getting better or getting worse. Pleasing methods or pleasing results is nothing more than a shift in our own perspective.